For a better living..!!

In my childhood, I used to have a friend whose father worked at some other state for 15days a month and stayed at home the other 15days. At the age of 5, that was a very big mystery for me…because my dad is with me everyday, why it is different for her? Then later, I got one other friend whose father worked at some other country and my friend has no idea when he will be home.

Very puzzled, I desperately want the reason behind that. I asked my mom one day…

Amma…you know my friend xyz, her dad stays at home only 15days a month it seems, and that friend abc, his dad works in a foreign country and my poor friend don’t even know when he will be back. But my dad is with me everyday, right…why is this difference?

She said…beta, your dad works in a school, which is his job. Same way, your friend’s dad works in office at some other place, which is his job. We all have to work to earn a living. Then I asked her why can’t he work here and stay with them? My dad is earning that way only, so why can’t them? 

My mom said that they are working “for a better living”.

At that age, my understanding of a better living is to get more toys, chocolates and so many fancy dresses. But as a little girl, I used feel bad for my friends when their dad couldn’t attend their birthday party or he couldn’t make it to our annual day celebrations at school.

Later when I grew up, I slowly started understanding what makes a better life. Of course, todays world’s principle is very simple – more money, more happiness. But I failed to understand - is this materialistic happiness is all?

I don’t blame people going out to foreign lands for earning, I know it is so painful to leave one’s family here and stay somewhere else all alone, just to work and earn money, so that the family here stays happy. But is there an end for being HAPPY this way? For a change, let us assume this way, why not work here, earn less, stay with family, enjoy and live every moment…isn’t that being HAPPY? 

Everyone have their own perception, end of the day we all are striving hard for a better living…!! I wish that “better living” really exists. J

Transformers / Transformation -- ?

The other day when I watched Transformers (film), a series of thoughts flooded my mind. The very idea of bringing the machinery to life in order to build an army - gave me this thought --

Almost all of us know something called TRAFFIC – oh yes, it is terrific if you have to experience it everyday. And that red signal is an enemy for most of us. It makes all our vehicles to stand in queue and wait for it to turn green. Till then it is fine, it’s all according to traffic rules and law…but what if we are stuck in a traffic-jam? I actually don’t understand the reason behind these traffic-jams but what bother me a lot is the happenings during that stint.

-       When caught in traffic-jam, everybody strives to find a way out. Then why almost all of us “honk”? If every vehicle from behind starts honking, the one in the front can find a way out? Or if you start honking, superman comes from nowhere and lifts your vehicle and saves you from that place? Is that what people except to happen? Or is it fun to irritate others and BTW what about the sound pollution?

-       Your vehicle is fixed in between many other vehicles and then suddenly you will notice people spitting on the road. “Spitting” on roads is not always done by illiterates but many literates do that. But why? Can anyone do that inside their house? I don’t think so, if your place is so holy, why not public places which belong to all of us?

-       Also, I have noticed many times that people smoke in cars, sometimes on bike too. Of course, it’s their personal interest but how can someone throw those cigarette stub (still lit) on the road? What if it drops on someone, god forbid, if anything happens? On the other note, is that a road or a dustbin?

-       Then comes the part of our very well known “signal-beggars”. If signal-breaking is considered as an offence, then what is signal-begging? Not all them we see are really physically or mentally ill. Though fact is known, we still give them money to get out of the embarrassment or some really have “kind heart” to donate. But by giving what they want is like encouraging them to continue the same? May be like a profession? I have seen that as a business in news and so many movies… may be in reality also, situation is the same.

I am not blaming or finding fault with the society, because I know I belong to the same society. And yes, there are people; there are organizations who volunteer to work on these issues. But how can a society so deep-rooted change in a day? As well, I have no idea how long it might take. Are we humans not capable of building a better society?

I get scared sometimes; I don’t want to see a day where our vehicles, when in traffic, get into life and fight with us like shown in the movie? What if the “road” gets into life and destroys us for not keeping her clean? The cigarette stubs, the water bottles, the pieces of paper, wrappers, all that we throw on the road get a life and abuse us? Its hard to imagine…but what if?

Do we need to fight with the “Transformers” or what we really need is “Transformation”?

Scoliodentosaurophobia

“Scoliodentosaurophobia” – does this mean anything? … Well, actually it means lizard-o-phobia. (I don’t know this word before, Google chacha helped me )


It was 8:30 pm, time to prepare supper. As usual I was walking towards the kitchen. The moment I stepped in, OMG…I have closely encountered the creepiest reptile ever, LIZARD (No offense, you might be the beautiful one in your species).

The very sight of this crawly creature made me numb for a moment. Only instruction my brain can afford is to “RUN AWAY”. But, how far I got to run? Then again my poor brain had to instruct me, though suffering from acute fear. It said, run till you find a place where you can feel safe, may be something at a height from ground…at home where can you go? I quickly found a sofa, went running and sat on it.

My husband was looking at me, what-the-hell-is-wrong-with-her expression on his face. Then again I inquired my brain…did you forget to tell me to shout at top of my voice? (Generally, we see girls shouting when they are in fear, mostly in movies ) May be I am an exception, my brain made this decision, don’t blame me

Then somehow I managed to tell my husband – “balli” (lizard in Telugu…when in fear, only mother tongue takes priority )  My husband – my savior went to send that lovely lizard to her (or his, I have no idea) home. May be that poor one missed the way and entered my kitchen. My husband is such a brave man, he looked like warrior for me who fought against other species and won the battle, successfully sent it to some place with which I hope not to have any close encounters again.

After a successful war, my husband started an argument with his own species he repeatedly asked me – why are you so scared, it’s just another creature. It will not come and eat you away. Blah blah blah… But has he got any idea what goes in my mind? Lizard look like some fire dragon, may be a dinosaur sometimes for me. May be it could become bigger in a moment and throw fire or something on me…or what if it attempts to swallow me? OMG

I still remember when I was in my teens (not that I am old now don’t get into suppositions, I am 25 ) I had a similar incident, worse than this one. A lizard crawled over me, might be due to my attractive dress  but that incident refrained me from entering into kitchen for a month or so. But now, it’s not possible, because I have to cook for my husband. May be the thought that I would not go to kitchen for a long time made him to become a warrior…else he would have given me a chance to skip cooking at least last night…no luck

Catch: Most of us have these kinds of phobias, so when in danger, run away from that place, look for a savior. You can even yell, so that your neighbors come to rescue you. But make sure you don’t kill the reptile. Just leave them in the right place. “LIVE and LET LIVE”.

Fantastic Fantasy with Bitter Reality..!!

As a kid, I was always jealous of my fellow kids who used to stay in a joint family. For me, joint family is like a dream…so many people at home, grandparents stay along with you. This thought used to drive me crazy…how lucky is a kid staying with grandparents. GRANDPARENTS - who pampers you a lot, tell you so many stories, always take your side when mummy-papa shouts at you, get you so many things to eat… all fantasies in childhood will be fulfilled if you get to stay with your grandparents. I only got summer holidays to enjoy with them. 

After 23 years, now that my dream is coming true…but of course the reason why my grandparents are staying with us is very sad…I don’t understand what God really plans for everyone’s life. Due to sudden demise of my uncle (only son to my grandparents), they happened to come and stay with us as my mother is their elder daughter.

Now, it is the time for me to enjoy all the fantasies which I wanted to enjoy as a kid. To some extent, I am completely happy to relish the moments with them…my grandmother, such a wonderful person, completely a new personality whom I haven’t known from childhood. She shared so many of her experiences right from her childhood, schooling, marriage, children…her life is like an epic for me. She said she even wanted to write a book when she was young, but she couldn’t. I was surprised to hear her thought-process, which even some people in modern world don’t have. 

But, recently I realized, I am enjoying and living in the world of fantasies where everyone looks happy…but the reality made me think whether everyone is really happy as I am and enjoying the current “life-style” or not. 

Then these facts came into picture:

• The place where you are living matters a lot than with whom you are living. I mean, though my grandparents are living with us, the place is quite new for them. It is difficult for them to go out on their own and they can’t always ask for someone to come along. Even if you wanna go along and make them feel comfortable, they feel they are burdening you. It is really hard to explain them that it is pleasure to spend time with them.

• The way of living is completely different in everyone’s home. It may be your own daughter’s home…but everything seems different when you actually start living there. “Life-style” really matters a lot and adapting to a completely new environment is really tough for anybody. This very thought sent chills to my spine, how can I adjust in a complete new home after marriage while I observe my grandparents finding it hard to adjust in their daughter’s home. OMG… it is gonna be a tough task…!!

Some such facts and couple of constraints are making me sick of losing my fantasy world yet again. But I have no idea what is gonna happen…!!

These conclusions made me think a bit broad minded… many other families might also have a similar problem…some might have adjusted…some might have learned to live the way it is comfortable…but I am not sure if everyone is living HAPPILY…!! Hope so…!!

In Pursuit of TWIN SOUL – ALL IZZ WELL :D :D

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Sruthi was speechless after reading his precious words “Patience - to keep myself away and calm from the thought of hugging you…Each and every time…!”…who said “Actions speak louder than Words”? Surya made it the other way…his words told her more than what he didn’t express to her till that moment…!!

There were hundreds of thoughts running in her mind…It was something unusual that was happening…his mail clearly expresses what he feels for her…but is that all for her, forever? If it is, then, what else she really want in life…!! With this thought, she made up her mind to express her feelings towards him…

Sruthi decided that Surya is her life…and her HappYness…!!

Finally, they are in “LOVE”…! :)) Yet not proposed… ;-))

The Proposal Day…!!

One fine autumn morning…cool breeze, flowers falling from the trees...He came with flowers bouquet…stretching his arms wide…welcoming her for a hug…a glance at the him made the her blush like hell…he was staring at her and background music starts….Ohhhhh…. ohhhhh…..stop it now…;-)) :P

If at all you are imagining this scene in your mind…pls wipe it off…:P :P

There was absolutely no such drama in their story… it was a very normal day…but the way Surya started looking at her and the way he started behaving with her is completely changed. And Sruthi could exactly understand what he is trying to convey with all his actions…!!

In the meanwhile, Surya started telling everything about how happy their life is gonna be…family, friends, kids, everything…Sruthi had burst out into tears…tears of HappYness…uttering those magical words for the first time… “I love you”…!! Surya was startled for a moment…he felt extremely happy…wiped her tears taking her face in his gentle hands…and murmured in her ears… “I love you too sweetheart”… :))

Unlike other routine stories, it didn’t end here with any misunderstandings.

Their love for each other was communicated to both of their parents…and they all agreed for the proposal…since all they want is HAPPYNESS of their children…!!

Surya – Sruthi are enjoying life together…Only the announcement for the final day of Wedding is pending…!!

Epilogue…!!

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Surya says:-

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She came into my life from a dream which rarely I dreamt of…

Girl with no desire for materialistic pleasures, what matters her is SOUL & HAPPYNESS…!!

When she is happy she explains the entire world how happy she is and strongly the reason for happYness but when in pain she shares it only to her loved ones…

She is possessive, jealous, envious etc. as any other girl on earth when it comes to "LOVE" but believe me she is an ANGEL unlike the other girls J

A gal who reads me so much and puts me in her words...

Ahhhh..!!

You can call this as Telepathy

OMG..!! I'm blessed to have such a gal.

A gal who speaks of happYness that she gonna give when she is with her guy for whole life but doesn't even think of her own happYness…for her happYness is what she gonna give her GUY…!!

I can tell you she is not SOULMATE, she is my HALF SOUL

Love u babee...

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Sruthi says:-

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I have never seen a person who is so loving and caring…

He is so pure at heart like a kid…and very mischievous too…:D

But when it comes to me…he is an adorable man…

There is absolutely nothing for me to ask him… coz he does everything before I speak up…

He liked me as I am…but he wants to change only my surname…!!

A guy who is very proud to introduce me as his girl to the world…without any fear or hesitation…

For him, it is always my happYness…and he finds it more joyous than his own happYness…

He loves me like a mom, protects me like a father, takes care of me like a brother, understands me like a best friend, admires me as a boyfriend, respects me like a husband and treats me like his child..!!

I am happy, proud and honored to share…no no…to spend my LIFE with such a wonderful and sweet person…!!

What should I call him…except my “TWIN SOUL”…!!

 

Happies Endings…!!

In Pursuit of TWIN SOUL – “BREAK” ke Baad ;-))

Aaage chale…!!

Surya – A guy with lot of friends…a big gang…He is always busy having fun with them…a guy who is very lively, active and fun-loving. Anybody who knows him or just sees him daily assumes that he is the happiest person in the world. Many people do ask him "How can you be so energetic all the time"...But nobody ever tried to figure out what he is exactly. On the whole, he is a happy-go-lucky man for the world.

Sruthi – A girl who gets noticed this way at a first glance…seemed as if everything is at its best and she behaves as if she believes in “life has to happen this way” so strongly….Very dull, moaning all the time, lifeless - all such sort of adjectives describe her. But who knew that she is quite talkative, very funny, too romantic, and killingly beautYful and have a very lovely soul.

All she needed was someone to awaken it.

In spite of many differences, they have one thing in common - strong liking for each other. Soon, their friendship which was confined to an hour’s journey got extended. Surya started inviting her for breakfast with his friends and Sruthi started calling him for tea with her friends. Both started spending more time with each other.

This new friendship brought many changes in both of them especially Sruthi. She started being more lively and happy after his presence in her life. He always made sure that she is enjoying every passing moment. Sruthi’s arrival in life made Surya to consider life in a different perspective (may be the exact point of view, which he always overlooked / compromised). Sruthi understood what she missed till then in life and Surya realized what he exactly wanted in life.

A Walk to Remember..!!

One day, during the return journey to home, Surya started telling Sruthi so many things about his life. The one who is always busy in only listening to what Sruthi is talking (blah blah ;-))) is doing it the other way but that was a serious discussion. Sruthi was amazed to see that angle of Surya.

After getting down from the bus, he walked along with her till her home for the first time. He completely opened up to her about his life. Sruthi felt he trusted her, so much that he shared each and every detail about him and his life. That is the first time she felt her home should have been little far. Both of them couldn’t stop the discussion… both of them don’t want the day to end, both of them wanted that journey to be a bit longer… A walk to remember forever in life…!!

Surya gave Sruthi his diary to read… “Diary” which reflects the inner feelings of a person, which nobody like to share/show to anyone, was given to her… Though it is not polite to read one’s diary, Sruthi couldn’t deny the offer. She felt, he is welcoming her to his life in that way.

After reading about so many beautiful moments and his wonderful thoughts in his own words, everything right from the day they both met, she started appreciating the soul beyond the words. Sruthi’s fondness for Surya turned to admiration from that moment.

Both underwent a couple of unforeseen incidents which transformed their lives completely.  

Turn of the Tide..!!

From the very next day… everything is changed. Sruthi and Surya could feel a sense of belonging for each other.

Surya started giving a lot of surprises for her. He took the privilege of breaking her diet plans by giving a chocolate to her daily though she is lazy enough to execute a plan… For Surya, everything about her is beautiful…including her being lazy ;-)) :P :P

Sruthi has taken utmost care of him such that he could see his mirror image in that aspect. Surya, who doesn’t have a habit of having tea, coffee @office started having it twice (sometimes thrice) a day with Sruthi.

Every day is a new day…with all happYness… euphoria… surprises… fun… bliss…!! Yet they treat each other as best friends (but somewhere deep in heart, it is much more than that ;-)))…!! 

One day, by the time Sruthi reached her desk, after a long break with some other friends, she found her mailbox showing an unread mail from Surya with subject “Patience..!!”. She thought it might be some forwarded mail and opened it. But to her surprise Surya has written a big mail in his own words…she was astonished by the mail which read like this:

It requires so much of..

patience

To look at u when u ah sleeping..

To be with u when u ah happy and sad..

To walk with u when u desire for one..

To listen your voice when u ah speaking..

To take all your words when u spell..

To stand by u when u ah in pain..

To experience elation when u jus laugh..

To regret for lifetime when u bemoan..

To step along with u when u joy..

To walk away from u in distress when u ah with “Someone”..

P.S:-

Patience- to keep myself away and calm from the thought of Hugging you..

Each and every time..  

With lots of Love,

Surya…!!!

Phir Milenge…!!